Let’s all cheer for extraordinary Lucy! Woo hoo! Lucy is married to Andy and they have two children, Iris and Wilf, who are 6 and 4. They live in the village where Lucy grew up in Northamptonshire, with her mum and dad on their farm just a few minutes walk away. Her children go to the village school.
Lucy is an Academic Coach who helps 15-18 year olds get the top grades and into elite universities like Oxford and Cambridge. She used to be a geography teacher in secondary schools but started her business so she could be a work at home mum and much more present for her children. You can find out more about her work here xoxoxo
What’s the best thing about being a mum? For me, it’s the unconditional love that flows both ways in a mother/child relationship. I just adore looking at my children and feeling the love flow out of me towards them. It also makes me burst with happiness when one of them says ‘I love you mummy!’ or ‘You’re the best mummy in the world!’. I’m also very partial to cuddles!
How did you feel the moment your first child was born? Well, that’s slightly complicated. I had an emergency c-section after a 47 hour labour that was going nowhere. I hadn’t slept or eaten for two days and nights. The spinal block had made me shake uncontrollably and the whole experience was completely removed from what I had hoped for. I think my initial feeling was relief but I was shaking so hard I couldn’t even hold my daughter. The most pleasant memory was the next morning. My daughter and I were alone at the hospital, we didn’t have any visitors until the afternoon. I sat up in bed with my knees up and lay her on my knees to she was looking straight at me. She literally looked at me drinking me in for two or three hours. I learned so much about her character in those hours that is just as true six and half years later: her determination, her desire not to miss a single thing, her intelligence. All those were evident that first morning. My love for her was over-flowing.
What do you know now that you wish you’d known before you became a mum? How relentless the responsibility is. There is literally no way to make someone who isn’t a parent understand what it is like to be fully in charge of these precious little people day and night for years and years and years. It’s a huge honour and a delight but the job is so much bigger emotionally and practically than you could ever imagine.
What do you do to take care of yourself? I get up before everyone else at 6am to have an hour to myself for meditation and yoga. This is my me time and I guard is ferociously. I also often watch costume dramas while I’m having my lunch (I work from home). My current favourite is Outlander on Amazon Prime.
What holds you back? This may sound strange, but I think my self-discipline and determination hold me back in a funny way. I am always pushing myself to achieve my targets and my goals but this can mean I ignore important signs and warnings e.g. about my health. Recently, I’ve been suffering from a series of very bad migraines but I am always trying to push myself on. When I listen to what my body needs I’m better able to look after myself in a more holistic way.
Describe a beautiful moment in your life. Quite recently I was with my dad, who has just turned 90, in my parents’ garden. My children were playing and dad and I were enjoying watching them play in the sunshine. He turned to me and said with a smile “You’re doing a good job. You’re a wonderful mother.” That meant the world to me coming from my dad, the father of five children.
What are you grateful for today? So many things. I’m grateful to be married to a wonderful man who loves me. I’m grateful for my two happy, healthy children full of the joys of life. I’m grateful for my parents who’ve been nothing but supportive of me throughout my life. I’m grateful for my first class education. I’m grateful that I live in a lovely English village and for the safety and security of being British. I’m grateful for nourishing food, good books and the roof over my head. The list goes on and on…